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Self-Sabotage
[/cs_text][cs_text style=”margin-top: -90px;”]Behaviour is said to be self-sabotaging when it creates problems and interferes with long-standing goals. The most common self-sabotaging behaviors are procrastination, self-medication with drugs or alcohol, comfort eating, and forms of self-injury such as cutting
(https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/self-sabotage).
[/cs_text][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ class=”cs-ta-center” style=”padding: 0px;”][x_image type=”none” src=”https://blacksheepcounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/04/brain-comic.jpg” alt=”” link=”false” href=”#” title=”” target=”” info=”none” info_place=”top” info_trigger=”hover” info_content=”” style=”height: 500px;”][cs_text class=”cs-ta-left”]Self-sabotage is not something most of us go around talking about, but it is something we can all relate to in varying degrees, and under certain conditions. You’d be hard-pressed to find someone who feels confident and worthy all of the time.
When I was kid, and I wished for something specific to happen, I would try to downplay my sense of hopefulness in case I “jinxed” it. I felt that if I wanted something too badly, that it simply would not then happen. Turns out, I was not alone in such feelings – my time counselling tells me that this limiting belief is alive and well with many people, especially youth.[/cs_text][cs_text]
I no longer feel that my dreams are thwarted simply by desiring them too much, as I now feel a sense of worthiness that had previously eluded me.
That being said: my humanness does cause me to still feel insecure and unworthy at times…
..And, to be real: Who hasn’t procrastinated watching an entire season of a television series on Netflix rather than doing some mundane task that we know our future self would thank us for?
[/cs_text][x_image type=”none” src=”https://blacksheepcounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/04/netflix.jpg” alt=”” link=”false” href=”#” title=”” target=”” info=”none” info_place=”top” info_trigger=”hover” info_content=”” style=”border-style: solid;border-width: 5px;border-color:black;”][cs_text]We are all a “work-in-progress”. Ever heard the saying “progress, not perfection”? – Remember it. It’s a good one.
Living with a sense of balance, practicing being in the moment (mindfulness), choosing to pick a growth mindset over limiting self-criticisms, and learning to laugh at ourselves in the process can help minimize self-sabotage.
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~Christine
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