What is Secondary Wounding? Secondary wounding occurs when people who have experienced trauma are met with unsupportive responses to their pain. It is not surprising that not everyone can provide …
Physical Impacts of Trauma and How to Foster Resolution
Physical Impacts of Trauma and How to Foster Resolution BRAIN ARCHITECTURE: Shrinkage in the prefrontal cortex, corpus callosum, and hippocampus, as well as enlarged amygdala (causing increased reactivity). ADDRESS HEALING …
Monkey Business
Monkey Business Mind monkey or monkey mind, from Chinese xinyuan and Sino-Japanese shin’en 心猿 [lit. “heart-/mind-monkey”], is a Buddhist term meaning “unsettled; restless; capricious; whimsical; fanciful; inconstant; confused; indecisive; uncontrollable”. The Buddha referred to …
The 3 R’s: Redefining Conflict
The 3 R’s: Redefining Conflict Do you avoid conflict like the plague? Many people fear conflict because they believe it will lead to loss of connection, intimacy, or trust. Interestingly, …
The Benefits of Crying
The Benefits of Crying Are you comfortable with crying? Countless people are not. In my role as a therapist, I hear people daily apologize for their tears (and for the …
Sleep Hygiene
Sleep Hygiene Have you ever heard someone diminish the importance of sleep with a quip such as “I’ll sleep when I am dead”? While the occasional night without optimal sleep …
Seven Types of Rest
Seven Types of Rest to Consider When You are Feeling Depleted PHYSICAL. Allows the body to relax, repair, restore. Try adding an extra 30 minutes of sleep when you are …
Accepting Praise
Accepting Praise How you see people is actually how you see yourself. What you think people think of you is actually what you think of yourself. Ever notice how you …
Strategies for Managing Flashbacks
Strategies for Managing Flashbacks ~Tell yourself “I am having a flashback” ~Center yourself: Centering focuses on your internal being “I am here”. Putting your hand on your chest can help …
Trauma: You can’t *think* your way out of it
Trauma: You can’t *think* your way out of it Our conscious mind processes 40 things in a single second, whereas our unconscious mind is processing 20,000 things in a single …